Becoming better together, not bitter!

I want to remind you that though sometimes growth is painful relationally, the gift at the end of that is the beautiful power of connection.

When we know we are cared about, we can shoot for the moon together.

It’s not single people one by one that make life happen but all of us together that get the job done.

Without rocket fuel for instance, there is no rocket, without an oven, there are no protein muffins that my girls made this morning (mmm!), just as without your spouse and family gifts added in, your own gifts just don’t pack the same punch.

Remember this on the days when your spouse isn’t as easy to love - it will make reaching out a bit more manageable! Also don’t forget the beauty of your Glow together and check out our Glow Guides if you need more reassurance!

Also remember this week, just as our amazing musician guest Paul Cardall reminds us with his literal billions of downloads that he’s had…

Even with success from friends, family, and those who don’t know you as well, you still need lots of time with your spouse or you won’t do well on the days you are truly hurting. This means plans together for trips, date nights, and just regular times to unwind together, even if it means slowing down and moving things creatively.

It means leaning in when you want to lean out.

It means crediting them for the things they do even when you’re tempted to pretend you did it all without them.

In other words, it means grit!

I’m going to sum it up here. You are better together so honor and care for that love even if your spouse doesn’t always get you - no one is perfect.

Even with all of Paul Cardall’s successes in the world, and even though he candidly shares how hard it is for him as a 438 and her as a 5 and 1 at times, he credits his wife with saving his life in many ways.

Do the same and your own gifts will indeed rise up higher, I promise! And let me remember that with you as I think on Wes today with affection and gratitude today as well and shift to love him better!

Find more ways to connect with your spouse in our 5 week relationship course or in our book, “Enneagram in Marriage.”