Enduring through Hard Times

Guys, as much as you know I love fun in marriage, I would be remiss if I didn’t remind you we’re ALL going to have to face struggles sometime, and whether you’re discovering strain around the area of family ties or something else painful this week or not, join us in fortifying your life and relationship!

I want to help you navigate this marriage journey with balance and endurance. Yes, even when enthusiasm runs dry.

And let me let you in on a secret you hopefully know anyway. That’s that no one, (not even a Seven) has enthusiasm for the work we do all the time! But that doesn’t mean you don’t have work to do in your marriage - even if Hollywood would depict otherwise.

Quite honestly it would be downright strange if you had happiness during hard times, such as when you’re ill or grieving or planning strategy with focus. You need to be able to live life in times of laughter and fun but you also need to live with your family in hard times without checking out. If you are struggling here, consider getting a coach or therapist for support!

So, as you work on your difficulties together and try to balance your SO, SX, and SP instincts and leave the rest to God, don’t be surprised if sometimes you feel sadness or experience pain. Learn more about the instincts here!

Loving others costs. It makes us tired and busy and we are often at the mercy of balancing with other adults, especially our spouse.

But there is a new freedom that comes from looking up and loving and leaning in to your partner, even as you also seek balance so you don’t wear out.

You are so much stronger when you are tenacious to love even when it’s not easy.

Please remember this as you encroach on hard times, including hard time with extended family.

The opportunities to lean in and love are endless, but in your loving, do not lean in so hard that you become bitter or forget to water your life or marriage. This is where addiction and vices come in.

Instead, rest, love, repeat! 💗 

Find more ways to connect with your spouse in our 5 week relationship course or in our book, “Enneagram in Marriage.”