Healing Emotional Infidelity & Hiding Behaviors
Have you ever kept a part of yourself hidden from your spouse or partner because you didn't want them to see the hurts, the wounds, the vulnerabilities?
Maybe you felt like they could never love you the way you needed because you did try to share your issues in the past and they fell on deaf relational ears.
Perhaps as we discussed last Friday on Substack, you didn't want them to think you were too needy and in the name of mystery, you help them from your hardest thoughts and pains and shared them with someone else.
In seasons like this, when you are far from one another's hearts, finding another attachment object can feel like the best solution, especially if it feels innocent.
However, this very self-focused pattern of finding fantasy or another relationship will not only not heal the hard relational patterns between you and your mate, but it won't help you with your own inner shame, sorrow, or addictive patterns either, and in fact will keep you stuck in self-focused soothing patterns that hurt a myriad of others, too.
The good news is, there's always always grace for growth - you are worthy of healing.
As you listen to this episode on healing from and preventing infidelity, emotional or otherwise, we're talking candidly about all of this with pastoral couple Josh and Katie Walters who walked through this exact season fifteen years ago.
I'm so thankful they're willing to share their resurrected marriage story, one all couples can learn from, whatever their big issues of hiding are, through a hope-filled lens with us here as we talk about real, deep, and healing marriage as well as their new book, “New Marriage: Same Couple: Don't Let Your Worst Days Be Your Last Days”
