Problem-solving Exercise
As much as you may want to maintain the homeostatis of healthy living in your inner and outer world, you may not always have the healthy mindset to go with that. As we talk and walk through changing your unhealthy processes around your hardest relationships, I'd like to help you with that.
If you struggle with extended family on either side, which I find at least 75 percent of you do according to a recent Instagram survey I did, consider asking yourself some healthily framed questions to help you find that homeostatis of balance in your instincts together as you pursue a healthier you!
Take an intentional thirty minutes in your day today or early this week (set it on the calendar) to walk through the following questions:
Think of a problem in your life now or one you foresee popping up in the holidays.
Can you describe the last time you managed to get free of the problem for a couple of minutes in life or marriage? What was the first thing you noticed in those few minutes? What was the next thing?
Knowing you would like more times like this, take time to remember what you were thinking/feeling/doing/wishing/imagining during those few minutes? If your spouse is doing this with you, talk about what you were each thinking/feeling/doing/wishing/imagining.
What might your best friend have noticed about you if she had met up with you in those few minutes?
How did you achieve that? How did your spouse help or not get in the way of this, even if it's just a small tool
What have you learned about what you can manage from those few minutes or days of health you remembered?
When you think about those times in the past when you have achieved this, how might this alter your view of the problem now? More hopeful?
What will you do to make this happen now and in your future?
Don't forget to write it down! You'll make sure to write a healthier story for you and also for those you generationally influence when you do!
