As you kick back a bit from work this opening summer Monday, we hope you take some time to chill during this fun conversation together with author Kate Hallock. As you learn about Kate, her husband, and their process for undertaking the first Enneagram mystery novel, Nine Ways to Die: An Enneagram Murder Mystery, we also have a mystery to solve together right on air! Join us here to examine what type Kate and her husband are for a chance to win a copy of Kate's novel and one of our mystery dinner games!

Did you feel different when you fell in love? Love does indeed change our brains, and wonderfully, love can even support us with emotional bonding. However, the intensity of love can also have negative effects on the activity within the brain. On the podcast, we demystify the brain and practically hack our way through the best ways we can allow our thinking and activities to support us in our goals together! Join Christa with an exclusive look at how to boost your brain with healthy hacks as we sit at the feet of neuroscientist Dr. Krissy Thomas, Ph.D, Enneagram Three. It's a powerful and fun episode as we dissect the very best ways to boost your joy and life together!

You need to know exactly what's getting in the way of the two of you in conflict, not only in terms of Enneagram type issues but also in terms of your meta-communication. In fact, if conflicts aren't addressed, they'll continue to control you from under the surface of your vices. On this brand new episode just for you, we are making the goal-getting deep and meaningful but also fun and practical with #1 rated marriage podcast experts Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo of One Extraordinary Marriage joining us. Christa first takes you briefly through the Enneagram system type by type vices so you can detect which issues you’re likely struggling with bringing into conflict and then we’ll leave it to Tony and Alisa to show us their creative and very helpful structure for processing conflict together better than ever before.

This week of Mother's Day, we work together on parenting goals as we look at the absolute best and worst researched-based practices with teens as they will influence marriage and sexual relationships with Sheila Wray Gregoire, Enneagram 8w7. We take both a microscopic and wide lens view of generational practices around sexual and faith norms across generations, from prior to Gen X to purity culture and now, there's still work to do around healthy teaching and training and we have the best tips for you!

As we begin to refine our goals together this month, we're covering the area of sexual intimacy right off the bat with the wonderful sex educator you always wish you had, Carlie Palmer-Webb, MS! Carlie runs the popular Instagram account @theChristianSexEducator to teach people who may not have been given healthy tools about sex the chance to build beautiful intimacy together. We talk about sexual mindfulness, purity culture, low libido, differences in desire, and how we can build up sexual desire together if it's low, in seasons of raising kids, and how sharing the load helps this area to be managed well! Carlie has SO many resources on and off the air including 20 questions to ask your spouse about sex, guides for engaged and newlywed couples, and The Women-Tell-All Learning to Orgasm Guide. Listen up!

What's preventing you from reaching your goals, from thriving personally, relationally, or at work? It's often so more than just circumstantial, but something you could actually get a handle on by increasing your emotional intelligence quotient with the Enneagram of personality, including your Enneagram instincts, defense strategies, triads, core fears, and more. Scott Allender, Enneagram 3 (3-4 pairing), is here to talk about all of this with us as you take steps to move your life, business, or family into a healthier direction with his deep dive into this truly next-level Enneagram training so you can truly thrive with newfound energy and goals! Tune in to hear about his brand new book, The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence: A Journey to Personal and Professional Success, and learn with us about how you can truly find your way through the biggest blocks to purposes you're meant for.

So many individuals and couples depend on faith for life's sustenance as well as a purposeful call together in relationships, and yet many times there are often so many faith or cultural disillusionments that send us far away from the rhythms of life wrapped up with God and communities of faith, especially at this precarious moment in culture wars. Prolific author Sara Billups, Enneagram 4 (4-5 pairing) invites us into a deep and curious dive into the past as well as movements for going forward in culture with meaningful, compassionate, and justice-oriented faith rhythms in her brand new book Orphaned Believers: How a Generation of Christian Exiles Can Find Their Way Home, that we talk about together today with you.

Grief hits us all at times - as a world, as a community, and yes, even as leaders, helpers, pastors, parents, or spouses. When grief and the ensuing life-changing rhythms and questions move us to new spaces that our friends, families, and often spouses, cannot fully navigate, what can do we do? And when faith questions arise, where can we go? In other words, you must give your loss and sadness a healthy space to process so you can both honor your story as well as emerge when the time is right for new life and hope again and again. Join us for this very special episode together as we do this very thing with psychologist and Tedx speaker Dr. Mekel Harris, PhD, Enneagram 4w3 as she shares from both the space of personal loss and her own expertise as a grief therapist with tools for us as well.

Whenever we approach spiritual growth, we look for roots in hurt or pain. Where have we gone off track with God and how does this distance or these wounds affect our relationships? In this new series on digging deep for faith individually and/or as couples, we ask hard questions - questions everyone has asked at some point but may not always feel are heard. We welcome powerful speaker, writer, and influencer at Proverbs 31 Ministries, author Kia Stephens as we discuss one of the key questions surrounding faith - what to do when there’s a father wound. Though Kia’s book has a special sensitivity around the huge amount of research detailing that many women have a father wound, this is a conversation all will want to take in if they have a father wound or they have a spouse who has one!

Whether you're hypervigilant or you tend to become withdrawn in the aftermath of trauma, there are certain costs to being strong - we were made well and we can live in survival mode for a long time. However, walking to freedom and safety on the other side is not only the goal, but it's accessible and present. Today we are grateful to have acclaimed trauma specialist and author Aundi Kolber, LMHC of Try Softer sharing her brand new book, Strong Like Water as we learn the way to more fluidly and safely process trauma. She offers us tips for individuals and couples as we learn the way to resiliency and ultimately to becoming strong like water together.

When we don’t have a healthy foundation or direction for exploring conflict well together, things tend to fall apart and keep falling apart - conflict management is essential as we have been discussing all month. On this deeper dive into conflict, we are joined by author Jackie Brewster as she walks us through her practical, hands-on brand new 7-week workbook on using extremely practical and organized Enneagram tools and tips to help you grow personally and heal these threads of discord between you.

Psychologist Dr. Wyatt has an important mission: to reduce the divorce rate one marriage at a time and today on the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, he does just that. As one of the leading marriage and relationships podcasters, today we are in for a treat as he vulnerably shares not only from an objective clinical lens but from a visceral empathy from his own marriage trauma healing over seasons as well. As we study conflict together all month, this episode gives you a very practical look at shaping your marriage healthily through one of Dr. Wyatt's nine tools - the five-minute, small but mighty "Bullseye" tool so you can get moving in a healthy direction right away!

Join us for a deep dive into a relationship chat on our repressed centers of intelligence, or stances, with Suzanne Stabile, best-selling author, speaker, and Master Enneagram teacher (The Road Back to You, The Path Between Us, The Journey Toward Wholeness). Suzanne shares her wisdom from connecting with thousands of families and across thirty-five years of marriage, offering honest advice for marriage success. As we discuss changing instincts across seasons and a conversation about our stances or repressed Centers of Intelligence, we increasingly learn to balance thinking, feeling, and doing with more consistency and balance with intention.

In this "Life" series, you don't just get to hear about marriage with each of the types but for you to experience sitting with a person of each personality type as well. Join us for a cup of coffee and convo as we continue to drip out an Enneagram series of chats with each type! Today we are interviewing writer, teacher, and master organizer, Laurie Palau, Enneagram Type 8 of This Organized Life about all the super big questions you've always wanted to ask an Eight as well as a few tips about her very 8 way of bringing clarity and order to a sometimes overwhelmed family with her worldwide business!

Join us for a cup of coffee and convo as we drip out an Enneagram series of chats with each type! Today we are interviewing an Enneagram Type 9 speaker and coach, Emily Wingfield, about all the nitty gritty Nine issues you've been wondering about such as marriage and family with a 9, withdrawing, merging, past orientation, action/sloth, and so much more!

As we explore romance together, one of the most important ways we can connect hearts together is by really understanding the deepest needs of our spouse. As we walk through today's episode with Dani Cooper, certified Enneagram teacher, author, and coach for individuals, couples, and teams, (and 1-6 marriage pairing with her hubby Sean), we get clarifying reminders about what each personality type really ultimately delights in receiving in terms of their deepest needs. Don't miss this heartfelt episode and fun episode even as we gently challenge one another to the most bountiful kinds of love!

We begin a month of romance with our fresh and fun first February guest relationship coach Dana Che, Enneagram 3! Dana is witty, articulate, hilarious, and fun, and she has not only been coaching couples for practically forever, but she's down to earth and able to be honest about her journey of depth here with us as well. Join Dana as she brings us all into our goal-oriented 3 space by loving our partner with intention, an open heart, and lots of loving action!

In this darkest time of the year, it's so important we have good ways to wrestle with the things keeping us from hope, from faith, and from light. In this episode, Jesse Eubanks of Love Thy Neighborhood and The Enneacast remains us that empathy is one of the key ingredients of deep trust with God and others as he joins us for an important discussion on how Christ relates to each of the Enneagram types as we discuss his brand new Harper-Collins Zondervan book, How We Relate: Understanding God, Yourself, and Others through the Enneagram. Join us for this important conversation on moving into this important space together individually and in relationship now!

When we agree to vows to support one another in sickness and in health, we want to be able to provide one another a safe space to heal as well as a safe space to grow a healthier immune system. We interview Coach Jenn Johnson, Enneagram One, trained by Dr. Hyman's Institute for Integrative Nutrition, who is also an E + M Certified Coach, and she not only helps us to honor our marriage vows during times of sickness but also helps us to create a winning, research-based formula for immunity-building, one tiny habit at a time together!

Join E + M Certified Coach and trauma-informed polyvagal specialist and marriage helper Jessica Vangsnes, of the 4-8 pairing on today's E + M Pod. Jessica walks you through practical and peaceful steps to bringing healing to your body this month as we continue our journey through wellness in the New Year. Christa and Jessica also discuss Jessica and her husband Travis' (4-8 pairing) peaceful mountain retreat center in East TN for couples!

Our second week of the New Year brings your brightest and best in the bedroom to the together as we discuss the 5 main sexual love languages in your marriage. In this episode, Christa not only shares some insights type by type sexually but also walks you through five love styles sexually, offering you tips to bring you back to the most intimate times together yet!

We open Season Five of the E + M Podcast as Christa walks you through five habits that have been life-giving and life-changing for her and invites you into healthy rhythms for your new year.

When the holiday stress arises and you need to just relax, there’s nothing more fun than hanging out together and talking about Christmas movies and the Enneagram! Join this casual convo with Christa and guest Amy Wicks of Wholehearted Enneagram and get double the type 7 joy and fun as we invite you into a full-out convo about both holiday Rom-Coms While You Were Sleeping and Elf, Enneagram style! And yes we did classify Elf as a rom-com for this TOTALLY carefree and fun time with you!

Though each member in a couple can balance one another out as we give to one another, there are also certain ways we crash together in terms of our head, heart, and body centers. This E + M listener-requested mini-podcast helps us to not only avoid predictable pitfalls when we consider the tendencies of the Enneagram types merging with one another across and within the heart, heart, and body triads, but also to find our way to healthier connection and vulnerability together!

So many times, we don’t realize that the parental overlays from our first few years of development have laid a foundation that runs deeper than we can imagine. In this mini episode, Christa runs through the dysregulation patterns of each Enneagram type just in time for the holidays so you can make sure that you are not only aware of potential connection disruptions, but also truly prepared for the very best times together in life and marriage!

When the holidays get busy, it can be so easy to get lost in the shuffle of the tyranny of the urgent. However, without intention, you not only won't merge your Enneagram gifts to find your best and brightest ways to glow in the world, but worse, you can fall into the shadows. Join Christa for this mini that includes a brief writing exercise as well to get you fired up and focused together out there as you shine!

Are you feeling alone in your grief or even just stuck this season? Join Christa for a therapeutic journey of discovering ways of processing grief, learning to lament and move ahead, and honoring the story within.

How can you best shine together this holiday? This episode is not only a safeguard against stress and struggle over the holiday maritally, but it's an important shortie episode for you to remember the best ways to show up for your partner so you truly get your glow on together! Listen to tips for each type so you can remember the tips with all the various pivots across type, wing, arrow, and more that you each take all through the holidays for your very best together!

Types Two, Seven, and Nine stay as positive as possible and as such there are some extremely important reminders as you learn to walk through your love life with them! In this mini-episode, we're talking about incorporating healthy love initiation and responses with Enneagram Types Two, Seven, and Nine to give you a straightforward and simple shortie relational boost!

Types Four, Six, and Eight are quite passionate and as such there are some extremely important lessons to find - and keep - love with them! In this mini-episode, we're talking about incorporating healthy love initiation and responses with Enneagram Types Four, Six, and Eight to give you a straightforward and simple shortie relational boost!

Types One, Three, and Five are quite logical and as such there are some extremely important straightforward ways to finding love with them! In this mini-episode, we're talking about incorporating healthy love initiation and responses with Enneagram Types One, Three, and Five to give you a practical and simple shortie relational boost!

Some of us, particularly those who identify with Enneagram 1, 4, and 7, create patterns of idealistic expectations that potentially hinder their quality of life and their love match. Join Christa for a mini-episode on the Harmony groups as we discuss types 1, 4, and 7, and the ways they can bypass the realities and deep connections of marriage, in favor of seeking impossible ideals. Check the last two Wednesday for the other six types in marriage!

In our attempts to attach with our spouses and family, we often drop on the styles of our earliest years. Join Christa in a deeper dive episode as we delve into the heart of the disorganized attachment style in marriage. We also share tips as well as a special practice you can do at the end if you’re struggling with the intensity and self-doubt that often comes with this type of attachment work. In order to learn more about this attachment at large, make sure you check out the attachmentproject.com

Some of us, particularly those who identify with Enneagram 2, 5, and 8, create patterns of rejecting behavior that potentially hinder their quality of life and their love match. Join Christa for a mini-episode on the Harmony groups as we discuss types 2, 5, and 8, and the ways they can reject nurturing and accidentally bring out something they fear most, rejection from the ones they love. Stay tuned for the other types!

For many, a marriage or close relationship with addiction is the norm, and yet life with an addicted partner is not only not the ideal, but is often a source of chaos, negativity, emotional upheaval, and worse, sometimes for generations on end. Join Christa in this special episode with Dr. Deborah Russo, Psy.D, who has a specialty in working with couples and addictions. Dr. Russo shares clarified great hope and tips for those walking on this often lonely and misunderstood road.

Join us for this simple series on each type as we share about the three subtypes of Nine in marriage and family life!

Join us for this simple series on each type as we share about the three subtypes of Eight in marriage and family life!

Join us for this simple series on each type as we share about the three subtypes of Seven in marriage and family life!

As Amazon Prime releases the new Lord of the Rings prequel, The Rings of Power, it's time for the merging of the worlds and a trek into Middle Earth for a special episode discussing JRR Tolkien's LOTR trilogy as well as having some fun Enneagram typing the fictional characters as well.

Today's podcast offer both a personal and a collective experience for empowered healthy fitness lifestyle habits. Christa is joined by Sarah Thomas of Burn Fat and Feast, an Enneagram 1 (1-8 Glow). Sarah not only shares her hard journey from the college weigh-ins to truly empowered living with less of a focus on the scale. She has helped thousands to find their way back to abundant and strong eating rhythms. Instead of body shaming, we emerge from this month stronger for our marriages and families together!

When you're struggling with healthy eating or extra weight, we know the last thing you need is to be shamed. However, your life and relationship is ever so much stronger when you feel good. What better way to learn about feeling good, hormones, and the body than from a detailed Enneagram who Type 1 who holds all of this with us and comes from a place of abundance? Join us on today's E + M Pod with accredited Health Coach Jenn Johnson! She is awesome at sharing life-changing health and fitness tips you won't want to miss for anything!

We are indeed better spouses when we're energized and following a healthy fitness and eating routine, but let's face it, sometimes we simply need someone to cheer us on, someone who knows both Enneagram + Health Coaching. Today we are delighted to be joined by the fabulous health coach Myrna Cervetti, Enneagram 1, of Enneagram & Health (@Enneahealth on Instagram). If you need inspiration and hope for the journey, we give an added boost to each and every Enneagram type together!

As we lean into our health and fitness focus on the podcast this month, Christa takes an interview-style approach with her husband Wes, a specialist in family medicine, who has helped thousands of families with their healthcare needs across seasons of life and marriage. Make sure you tune in to this important discussion of getting and staying as healthy as possible together for your own happily ever after!

As we pause to reflect on all of the growth of the seasons past, we transition to new spaces with spiritual growth in mind. Christa is joined by author Meredith W. Boggs, Type Eight as we stop for some soul care. Meredith walks us through not only the virtues and essence of each Enneagram type, but also three of the most helpful spiritual practices for each of the Enneagram types as well. As we focus on growth, take a listen to this deep dive into practices you can take into your life, marriage, parenting, and friendships as well.

Join us for our final episode in the July sex series with the wonderful Chris and Jamie Bailey of Expedition Marriage. Christa brings the hard but most important questions to Chris and Jamie about the journey to the most satisfying intimate experiences of a couple's life, and their life as a 9 and 6 on the Enneagram also. We are so happy to share this episode with you as not only do Chris and Jamie share the best of their marriage but they also share life lessons they've needed to learn along the way, tips you don't want to miss for your marriage either!

Have you wondered how your survival instincts affect your sex life or lack of intimacy as a couple? The instincts are undoubtedly relevant as we talk with Enneagram researcher and sexpert, Sam E. Greenberg, Enneagram 5 about how you can grow together as you work to understand one another's ways of staying feeling loved, close, and safe in the world. Sam and Christa go over both the basics as well as the depths of each of the instincts and how you as partners can relax enough in your instincts together to enjoy a mutually pleasurable intimacy life together. Tune in as you find one another's very best together!

So many times couples aren't on the same page about sex and often it's due to one or both lacking desire. Find out four root causes that lead couples and especially women away from desiring sex in marriage as well as ways you can shine brightly not only in the world together but also in the bedroom. Join Christa as she brings not only clarity but also competency when it comes to healing the intimacy gaps in your relationship.

Tune in to hear how masculine and feminine energy affect your marriage and your life!

How do you not only build but keep intimacy and adventures over the long years of marriage? We talk real marriage tips today, not just during the honeymoon period with the world's number one marriage podcast hosts Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo of the One Extraordinary Marriage Podcast. Join Christa with guests Tony and Alisa as they take us on a deep dive into their marriage story, adventures, and share the 6 essential pillars of intimacy building! (Hint, you need them all!)

After the honeymoon period of marriage, it's so important that couples work together to turn their dreams into reality together. Whatever your pairing, we're happy to get great tips from Enneagram & Marriage Jenn and her husband Rob today, who are part of the 1-3 Pairing. They're also taking us on a deep dive into bringing health into your adventures and life together since Jenn's a health coach with awesome tips for all!

What do you do when you've got two opposite temperaments system in your marriage or relationship? One of Christa's favorite mentors, Dr. Sharon Otis, PhD, Enneagram 2 (2-9 Glow), is here for the task of telling you how she's done it and how you can do it too! With positivity through tremendous trials, with grace, and with lots of love, Sharon is here with joy, hope, and the wisdom of fifty years of working with family systems. This is a #lifer episode you don't want to miss!

This special anniversary episode with Christa and Wes as they go over the very best and worst of adventuring together in marriage. You'll get tips for how to plan for as well as to enjoy your marriage and plan for amazing adventures together as we open up the month of June and hear from various couples and individuals about how to plan the adventures of a lifetime together! Join us for this special anniversary episode with us!

Let's take the mystery out of what makes for a great couple pairing. Today Christa is joined by Dana and Johnny Lawsom who are #goals for so many in their community because of their beautiful love story. Enjoy this light-hearted, fun episode, trying to guess their couple pairing along the way!

Join Christa in a brief convo and exercises in addressing and discharging jealousy that arises as we do our work with intention. Jealousy is often an under-discussed issue in achieving marriage and life goals. Listen in to learn how to deal with and manage jealousy in healthy ways!

Join Christa for a brief journey and a sharing of wisdom gained through the narratives of biblical characters who struggled with the same instinctual issues as we do in life and marriage. When you're stuck in a rut, it's often helpful to hear how someone else worked through something, and the ancient stories in the Bible truly bring the instinctual lens home to us!

In this E + M Shorts episode, Christa brings us a visual of each of the enneagram types coming together as a collective to make a beautiful event, and in this case, a party! As you will hear, every single type is needed to make the project or process the very best and as we open the doors to our new E + M Collective, we hope you will bring your type to the E + M Glow adventure together!

The E + M Collective Membership, an Enneagram + Marriage Membership is OPEN! Founder's pricing only till June 1, 2022 and membership doors close June 14, 2022! We have a dynamic relationship training mini-course inside for you to find your glow together, exclusive marriage PDFS for you, monthly live Zoom trainings with Christa, and a FB group that opens June 1 also as we come together to shine out in the world.

Have you wondered about how the Enneagram can be used while your dating? Do you know about healthy attachment styles?

Then listen in as we look for the missing pieces of ourselves if we’re trying to find a soulmate or connect to our spouses better if we're already married. But if we're not healthy ourselves in our attachment styles, will this really help? In our desperation to make the best match, we often miss doing some of our own work. Join Christa and guest "The Date Doctor Christie", Dr. Christie Kederian, EdD, MFT who has paired the Enneagram with the healthiest dating and long-term attachment strategies both for those who are married and for those seeking a mate as well!

Check out this pod as Christa talks with Leslie Herschberger about the centers approach using the Enneagram. There are three distinctive ways of being that are hard-wired into our nervous systems and they are associated with the three centers of the body, heart, and mind. Leslie Hershberger, Enneagram expert of 25+ years, and married to her husband Dave for 40 years, shares with us about the ways we process conflict in marriage. Don't miss Leslie's very deep dive into the centers with us as she unpacks the ways we defend our positions as well as the ways we can continue to find a richer path to healing together.

This podcast is not to be missed as they talk through the importance of conflict in marriage using the Enneagram. Conflict keeps a marriage honest, healthy, and allows couples to learn with each other and to teach one another. Christa is joined by Kimberly, an Enneagram 3, to talk about the healthy ways in which couples can specifically grow in the area of conflict resolution so that they can use it to strengthen them and not tear them apart.

In this episode, Christa talks with Beatrice Chestnut about the importance of balancing our SP (self-preserving), SX (sexual), and SO (social) instincts. As a world-renowned Enneagram teacher, thought leader, and coach Beatrice Chestnut of CP Enneagram Academy shares how we can both respond to and gently learn to shift and balance with our spouses, partners, and communities using these three instincts.

Today’s podcast is a special show that aims to both inspire and balance you as we talk about walking through the season of darkness and divorce using the Enneagram. Christa talks with Enneagram author Kim Eddy, Type 1 about how to support the many who go through a divorce in friend circles, in extended families, and especially when it's personal to you. Join Christa and Kim as we talk through tips for not letting bitterness overtake us in these moments but instead slowly learn to light a candle of grace in the dark as we hold onto faith, hope, and community.

Join us as we take you on a deep dive discussing the following traits of Type Four in marriage and relationships. Christa and Jenn talk about the origins of a Four, the vices (passions), fixations (thought patterns), subtypes, wings, arrows, and most of all tips for a healthier and more fulfilled life and marriage. Share this episode with the Enneagram Four in your life so you can shine brighter together all year long!

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Join us as we take you on a deep dive discussing the following traits of Type Three in marriage and relationships. Christa and Jenn talk about origins of a Three, the vices (passions), fixations (thought patterns), subtypes, wings, arrows, and most of all tips for a healthier and more fulfilled life and marriage. Share this episode with the Enneagram Three in your life so you can shine brighter together all year long!

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Join us as we take you on a deep dive discussing the following traits of Type Two in marriage and relationships. Christa and Jenn talk about origins of a Two, the vices (passions), fixations (thought patterns), subtypes, wings, arrows, and most of all tips for a healthier and more fulfilled life and marriage. Share this episode with the Enneagram Two in your life so you can shine brighter together all year long!

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Join us as we take you on a deep dive discussing the following traits of Type One in marriage and relationships. Christa and Jenn talk about origins of a One, the vices (passions), fixations (thought patterns), subtypes, wings, arrows, and most of all tips for a healthier and more fulfilled life and marriage. Share this episode with the Enneagram One in your life so you can shine brighter together all year long!

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Join Christa and guests Juli and Thomas Hobby from Marriage Puzzle as we break down both individual and couple strategies for making sure your mental wellness stays in check all year long. Whatever your Enneagram type, you're getting tips so you can find your way back to time logging off, time leaning in, and time loving your people intentionally.

Christa is joined by author Elisabeth Bennett of Enneagram Life, as she talks about all things emotions for every type, the 4-1 pairing and her popular Enneagram devotional series. Over time in our relationships, we absolutely must be able to go deep into the recesses of both joy and grief in life and marriage. Elisabeth shares invaluable tips from the contemplative and open-hearted 4w5 perspective as we walk through both grieving well and stepping back into life with love and joy.

With all of the Enneagram tools out there, sometimes it's hard to know what order we do our work in. Though there will be nuances for each person and relationship, the work we do as couples does need to have a particular flow if we're going to make any headway individually, one to one, and in shining our lights together in the world also. Join this special show to learn how to move with personal refreshment, couple growth, and to make a fun and beautiful impact together in the world also as we study the order and flow of managing our instincts!

Join Christa for an episode packed with hands-on tips for re-energizing your Enneagram route to healing by living with intention as you grow in your life and marriage. Today's podcast differentiates wings from arrows and takes every listener on a type-by-type journey of how they can reclaim their arrow lines to offer them more routes and healthy options in their Enneagram growth journey, both personally and in marriage!

In this episode, take a deeper dive with Christa into the route for how to move from one wing into the other so you are most balanced in your type work. We're always talking about which wing we "are" in our Enneagram types versus deeper diving into how we can use both wings to grow in our lives and marriage. We go type by type to process the nuances of what your work may look like and most importantly, how you can take this growth into your life so you can live life with beautiful attention and intention!

Take time to listen to this week's episode with Christa and her assistant, coach Jenn Johnson (1-3 Glow) for a chat about all things love stories, Enneagram and the holidays. This is a time for families to come together but often with the extra time comes the noticing of our disparities in marriage as well. You'll get tips for how to keep your love alive as well as tips to avoid and work through marriage and relationship triggers, plus fun ideas for the kiddos!

Listen in as Christa talks with Beth Johnson, an Occupational Therapist and 1-1 Glow Pairing for a riveting episode on how much our sensory issues can impact our marriages and cause stress in our families. Today's episode is full of teachings and tips that are not to be missed!

Moriah and Christa discuss the stories behind the songs, Moriah's marriage story, and the ways they continue to inspire one another together creatively in their marriage glow. This special conversation with Mexican-American recording artist Moriah Smallbone was on the day she released "Worth," a song she produced with her Grammy-award winning husband Joel Smallbone on her brand new EP Live at the Quarry. Amidst Enneagram learning, Moriah also discusses finding herself through history, culture, family, and most especially, faith.

The Enneagram Glow is a concept to describe how you and your partner’s combined relationship gifts shine brightly together in the world. On the flip side, it also provides a framework to work through your unique “couple shadow”. The glow we create together looks very different season to season and after years of struggle, coregulating, and exchanging our gifts. On today's show, Christa goes through the 6 Step Enneagram Glow process most couples go through.

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Christa interviews 3-6 Glow couple Pastor Matthew Stephen Brown and Tammy Brown about their mission to extend God's love for each other and the world through their lens of ministry and Matthew's new Enneagram book. This episode covers some of the complexity of being married to someone with a different core fear and how to step into growth together.

Join us for tips for on both maintaining your authenticity, finding your solace during raising children, and most of all, finding a deep heart connection together, no matter what your type! Christa is joined by Des Schnell, Enneagram 3 of the 3-5 "Master Minds" Glow Pairing as we learn about working with both 3s and 5s in marriage as well as the pairing. We're also talking about not just working on marriage but being in one as ourselves honestly as people and as parents, as we continually lean into growth and grace.

Join Christa to hear about not only the fixation of each type but in learning practical and sensitive solutions for helping individuals and couples of each and every type to find hope and healthy redirection. We all have certain routes we believe will help us in our life and relationships. However, they are actually the well-trodden but dysfunctional paths known as the ego-fixations that trip us up and create distance, disharmony, and conflict in our relationships, ultimately wounding us, our partners, and our families. Get practical tips and strategies to move forward in healthy ways!

Christa is joined by the organizational expert, author, course creator, and podcaster Laurie Palau, as she shares her Enneagram and Clutter course tips, helping us to uncover the patterns, habits, and emotions under clutter as we consider Enneagram types as well. Today's show covers mentally and physically energizing ways for couples, families, and individuals to get organized and to stay organized in any season you are in!

Today Christa and Beth McCord explore the Enneagram and relationships together as well as the deeper implications of the Enneagram. How does the Enneagram theory work with someone who's a Christian? Is it a healthy tool spiritually? How can we use it to grow closer to God? Join in as Christa and Beth help you to find your way to grace, balance, and as always more great tools, including Beth's book, Becoming Us.

Join Christa as she interviews New York Times and Booklist favorite, power couple Nate Klemp, PhD and Kaley Klemp, MA, (Kaley's also an Enneagram Institute Coach!) as they talk us through how we can turn a 50/50 marriage up a solid notch for a new levels of health with the 80/80 marriage and a model of radical generosity. When marriage research combines with the determination and strength of the awesome 1-9 Glow pairing, watch out for an honest-to-goodness explosion of fun and wisdom for all the world to learn from!

Dr. Camden Morgante of the 9-6 Glow Pairing joins Christa to talk about both her pairing as well as her specialty of sex therapy. Many couples struggle in the sexual arena and today we take a different angle. Tune in to talk with us about some of the most painful and perplexing moments most couples walk through, including ED, pain and trauma in the bedroom, and more!

Join us as Christa talks with Caroline, a full out heart type 4 and Parker an optimistic 7 as they show us a piece of their lives and their 4-7 Beautiful Adventure Glow as well. It's so much fun to get inside of a couple's brain and heart and find out what makes them tick - together! After almost fifteen years of marriage, they've grown in learning how to love not only each other but the world together as they help hurting children across the world. Join this inspiring episode as you see just how deep love for others can run with two visionaries in a marriage!

This podcast is an interview with Liza Carden, Enneagram 8 and business coach, who shares so many tips and tools for the 8-9 pairing. She explains how to help your 9 to feel heard and support your 8 to feel healthily vulnerable. Whatever your type, this episode will be a gift to many listeners who want to find their best compatibility as well as their own vibrancy in the world!

Join us as Christa talks with Sears and Alisa Taylor on their surprising trek from fast-paced architecture life in the Windy City to farm-to-table life in Yuma AZ, where they homeschool their six kids and work out their version of happily ever after! Have you ever been told you’re good at guessing the types of others? Do you like hearing stories about couples who have gone the distance together? This episode is full of fun, family stories and forgiveness in marriage with clues to help you try to figure out the mystery. What are this couple's types?

Join Christa and find hope in understanding more about the process of working on your spouse or family member's addiction with critical relationship tools and research, from both inside and outside of the Enneagram world. Approaching addiction recovery in a family without grace can place an already vulnerable spouse and family right in the shame cycle. What they need most is the blueprint for both healthy attachment and healthy self-soothing. Listen in to learn all this and more!

Join Christa as she talks with the posh peacemaker Dr. Morgan Cutlip, PhD of the world renowned @mylovethinks as she takes us through working on marriage conflict without drama. She shares not only the depths and rhythms of her 3-9 Enneagram Glow pairing but also the ways she's learned to walk with patience each season, and with as little drama as possible. Want both a drama-free marriage and the opportunity to work on conflict? Then listen in as Dr. Morgan and Christa talk about the early years, mid point, and the best long game strategy for your pairing, too!

In this episode with the Maxey Co, Christa chats with Robby, 7sp and Morgan 1sp, to see how subtypes and gender cast a somewhat culturally different glow with a male 7 and female 1 in the mix. Learn exactly how the goodness of a body type can both ground and bring safety to a head type, while the head type brings self-compassionate and bigger dreams to the table. This couple is committed to bringing light and fun, yet vivid vulnerability as to what’s still in process, glowing and growing with grace.

Join Christa to learn more about the Enneagram instincts of social, sexual, and self-preservation. When you're stressed, you either go within, find a friend or spouse to chat with, or you aim to get social support with your favorite crew! In relationships, sometimes our favorite ways of surviving don't exactly appeal to our partners. What's more, often we sabotage ourselves by isolating one or two of the ways to survive and completely repressing the other. Discover ways to soften your dominant instinct, to enliven your repressed one, and to join your spouse in balancing the best of it all!

Join Christa in this interview with Sheila Wray Gregoire, author of the new and vitally important book, "The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught And How to Uncover What God Intended." As an Enneagram 8, Sheila has been championing this important topic with courage and tenacity and helps couples trade in misguided sex narratives for truly intimate and passionate times together. She will share why your sex life may be out of sync. Or even why it's only pleasurable for one partner. They discuss the emotional and physical pain in this supposedly wonderful area for many couples, and how to heal and move forward with more pleasure and joy.

Join Christa with husband-and-wife power couple Daniel and Christina Im, co-hosts of the popular Im Between Podcast to learn about how you can bring your personality type and subtypes healthily into raising a family. Perhaps just as importantly, how you can block the worst of your type and pairing from preventing growth and health in your family system. This double heart, assertive 3-3 pairing share about their life lessons as a truly dynamic duo, ultimately called to a narrative of true joy and strength they never could have imagined on their own.

Christa is joined by Mac Cazeau LMHC, therapist and researcher to discuss the Gottman method that preceded the Enneagram. This marriage research system called The Gottman Method would be a great tool alongside your Enneagram work to scale your marriage to new heights. This episode identifies key features of the research-based Gottman program for you to learn the basics, and the tips and tools to incorporate it into your marriage. In addition, Mac Cazeau, LMHC, who in addition to sharing the goal of relationship growth, also has the goal of eventually removing the stigma of therapy for people of color.

This Valentine's week, we have our first official Enneagram Glow story for you with Jared and Kate Shaughnessy, an Enneagram 8-3, "Unstoppable" couple sharing their powerful falling-in-love and maintaining love stories both! They share many practical tips about sexual intimacy, forgiveness, and personal growth. Get ready to learn how to be more intentionally and healthily passionate from this strong and assertive couple, as well as what it takes to humbly let down one's guard and to truly surrender as well!

Join Christa with Penguin Random House authors Jackie Brewster, Enneagram 7 and Eve Annunziato, Enneagram 8 who have 7-3 and 8-5 relationships, respectively. You will hear about the holy idea of the Enneagram but also how we practically find soul care as we journey toward healthier life and relationship work. Eve and Jackie have carefully and prayerfully laid the groundwork for you as you learn and grow, in their beautiful new Enneagram devotional book, Hearing God Speak: A Fifty-Two Week Interactive Devotional. This episode goes behind the scenes with these vulnerable and yet strong women to see how God brought them on a greater adventure than they ever could have imagined!

Join Christa in finding the best routes to shift into health and love this season as individuals, in marriage, and type by type with Enneagram arrows as well. Learn how can you manage the massive levels of stress that we're dealing with right now as a culture. Also hear how you can help a spouse with their stress, as well as show patience and love for people who are different from you. Most importantly in these times, hear how you can stay afloat so you can best serve others despite the mounting stress in our world.

We said goodbye to 2020 and now we're saying a big healthy hello to 2021! Let's do it together with a challenge that helps us to create a healthy flow in our hearts, minds, and bodies this year, one that considers our angst and issues but is ultimately comprised of gratitude, thoughtfulness, and love. This special episode outlines steps to restore things that have been unintentionally lost in the busy, hard, and whirling 2020. Together we're moving forward intentionally so we can glow brightly as couples and individuals!

Join Christa and her precious Enneagram 4 daughter, Hannah in reminding us of ten ways we can embrace the both the beauty and the depths of this season. Whatever your Enneagram type, 2020 is throwing all of us for a loop this holiday. The ups and the downs can bring out grief, loneliness, and a lack of direction, and we've decided to give you a healthy roadmap. Don't forget ways you can connect with your people despite distance. Despite the business and strain this 2020, you're family is waiting for you to step in with love as you celebrate!

This special fun episode takes a long look at love and the Enneagram on the big screen this time with some holiday fun added in! Join Christa and Olivia (who is back as a long-awaited guest!) as they finish the debate/conversations about not only the The Office and Gilmore Girls love interests but also take up typing the A-listers hanging out in a much-beloved Christmas fav, "The Holiday." This episode brings lots of laughs, and lighter conversation to our listeners as you head into your day!

On part 2 of the Enneagram Glow series, Christa and Alaina listen to marriage and family therapist Michael Shahan, MA, LMFT, an Enneagram 9, talk not only about the way trauma can be healed in marriage but also particularly about how the popularly paired 1-9 couple can glow together. In this episode, we cover less of the research and development concept of the glow (see "Discovering Your Enneagram Glow: Part 1" for background) and more of the actual process of healing one another's deepest wounds and personal issues in marriage. We got emotional in this episode and we hope you do too as you continue to work on your relationship glow!

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Every single Enneagram type in marriage struggles with conflict. When is anger right? When should we curb it? What do we do in marriage with our anger and what can we do when we're holding onto our rage or hurts? Join Christa for a discussion of strategically and compassionately sharing hurts and dealing with conflict and anger with every type. This is an episode you don't want to miss, Enneagram love aside!

You've probably heard of the counterphobic 6 but did you know that each of the Enneagram types has a countertype? Christa goes through each of the 9 types and discusses the countertype flowing in the other direction of the type's usual positioning. Different from the counter passion, the countertype involves wanting the same result but using a different defense mechanism to get there! Find encouragement and balance here, learning about your best and worst ways of being both alone and together.

Join AnnMarie and Christa in a conversation about finding hope in a season of struggle, tips for those dealing with infertility, and the very special calling one often gets when they're asked to walk an unexpected road. Over a quarter of American families are affected by miscarriage and infant loss and almost as many have struggled with infertility yet it's a topic that's not often discussed in marriage and parenting circles with ease. Our guest on this extra special episode is AnnMarie Jones, mom of 3 and co-founder of Bridge A Life Adoption and Foster Care Ministry, and her story today as an Enneagram 2 is every bit as heartwarming as it is compelling.

Christa is joined by therapist and Enneagram 3 Alexandra Thompson, LMSW, owner of Cumberland Counseling Services for a conversation about growing as a church body and honoring even the most broken people. The Enneagram is infiltrating the church and that's no doubt a gift, since it offers a framework for connection across personalities. However, amidst the current "hustle" mentality of the church, there is great need to grow in caring for those with deep mental health struggles and addictions.

Tune in to Christa's interview with therapist and Christian professor Dr. Camden Morgante, PsyD. as they talk all things sex therapy, purity culture, and of course, the Enneagram so you can enjoy the celebration of healthy intimacy together! As much as we want sexual intimacy to be amazing, sometimes we come into marriage with unintentional baggage in this area. Whether you're dealing with problems that occurred before your marriage began or you've had issues build up along the way, this episode will answer many of your questions!

Do you believe in love at first sight? Perhaps you locked eyes with your spouse and the rest is history. Others of you had more of a calculated, careful and pre-meditated love story and some are not yet with your future spouse. In this exciting episode, we're establishing not only the definition of love type by type, we're walking through finding joy inside and outside of a relationship.

It's time to go deep with our peaceful and powerful Enneagram 9s! Join Christa in going through Type 9 tendencies, misconceptions, and paths to growth. Find out how you and your 9 loved ones can both get healthy and find your voice and power as a 9!

Join Christa for a chat on this special bonus listener request show on blended family issues. Christa is joined by her sister Abbie, an Enneagram 3, who talks about being married to an Enneagram 8, and also about all she's learning in blending her family of five boys. Abbie shares tips about navigating emotions, family meetings, therapy, knowing your role as a step-parent, how to give space, how to start the blending process, and so much more!

Have you been experiencing more fear during COVID? Have you been wanting to figure out how to master your stress as an Enneagram Six? Perhaps you're someone who's likely managing a lot more stress lately and you could use some tips and tools for bringing your personal stress levels down. This will help you bring healing and growth to your marriage and family. Lindsey Palmer, PharmD, an Enneagram Six takes us through the ins and outs of cortisol levels and the fight or flight response of our bodies. She also shares essential tips that she's learned over the years to utilize courage and to establish careful, planned, and non-stressful steps! Tune in to get started on managing your stress, too!

Whether it's a friendship like therapy or a professional helper, research tells us that whatever your Enneagram type, your relationship thrives with healthy encouragement from others. Many couples, however, are leaving this to the singles and not soliciting wise feedback when they need it most in marriage. Listen to this episode as Christa details the why, the who, the where and the when you need mentors most in your relationship. She also warns of the friendships you may need to shift away from as she shares critical life lessons in love and friendship!

Join Christa as she goes through each Enneagram type for healing from an affair. Though affairs can be a taboo topic, even more difficult to discuss is how we heal from them. She goes through the four classes of affairs and how to specifically treat them. This episode may not be as traditionally fun as many shows but we're so excited for you to listen because it's a truly life saving adventure to save a marriage from the brink of disaster!

Fours are considered the Individualists or the Romantics of the Enneagram. Why do Fours seem to delve into places of shame and sorrow more quickly than others, and why is there so much variety and stereotyping going on with them as well? What are they like in marriage, and most importantly, what can they do to be at the best individually and in their families and relationships? Join in for a talk on all things beloved Enneagram 4 including wings, subtypes, and type-by-type relationship pairings!

In this episode, you'll get encouragement and learn how to talk about and address food issues in your marriage, season by season. Research tells us ways we plan for or initiate and carry out our eating rituals in our families and cultures matter. Food together in marriage and family has such potential to either help or hurt your communication. You're also getting a great tool for conversations around your table!

Happy events in our lives and marriages deserve to be celebrated, and not just at the end of the road, but at important milestones too. In this episode, join Christa as she talks about various personality trappings for your types and hers, and especially how celebrating the amazing journey along the way changes your life for the better. Research, media, and personal examples all converge to tell us the same thing - the stories you tell about your marriage and the actions you take in it matter - a lot! Don't miss this opportunity to celebrate well together as you step into a fresh new moment of your life lived with intention.

Join Christa in a conversation about the importance of compassion, listening, empathy, and specific steps for healing trauma wounds in a marriage using the Enneagram. These steps bring success to a large degree and are the hallmark of healing difficult moments - together. Tune in for the three steps in healing attachment wounds as a couple, and stick around or our free resource for regaining balance in your marriage as well.

Join Christa for an amazing journey through her own grief at each stage with tons of useful marriage and personal tips! We know you're working so hard to make a great life and legacy for future generations together both in the world and in your family. But what do we do in marriage when trials and losses hit, as they inevitably do as time passes? Get tons of practical and heartfelt tips for each stage of grief!

Whatever their socioeconomic status, couples continue to report that arguing about finances is one of the three biggest issues in their marriages. In this vital episode, we're talking about the effects of financial infidelity as well as finding your wise and authentic financial voice. Start now on integrating your own budget as we share our weekly tools and more from financial gurus across the globe! Most importantly, you'll learn how couples struggle with their finances and how to overcome their challenges together.

Tired of running around the same marriage stumbling blocks? Join us for this episode where we tackle not just the rhetoric but the actual roadblocks of marriage communication issues! Whatever your Enneagram type, there are some tried-and-true methods for getting through to your spouse that will enrich your relationship for a lifetime!

Even if you're an assertive type and you don't like to be controlled by another person, human relationships need not only connections, but routines together to thrive, especially married couples. Don't worry, however, routines can be varied and fun! Listen as we go over the vital habits you need to continually establish so you can find or re-find your best routine vibes both individually and together, whatever your Enneagram type! We're also including info about a special freebie and a marriage training opportunity for pastors, counselors, and coaches!

Join Christa for a compelling conversation as we talk all things Enneagram and fitness! This week's research has shown cutting edge tips for staying as healthy as possible during COVID-19. In addition to wearing your PPE, we've learned getting through this harrowing virus has everything to do with your fitness levels! You'll learn how you, whatever type you are, can not only improve your own fitness life but also steer your marriage toward life and balance as well!

When quarantine guarantees an unquestionably long time together with your partner, what can you do to keep things not only healthy but also safe? Join us for an important conversation about each type in stress and ways to strategize with your partner so you both land in a safe place of wellness for the duration of the quarantine and beyond. Christa explores not only each type in stress but also highlights a strategy for a healthy rising up to the call of your unique gifts as well. Don't miss out!

Join us for this special episode as host Christa Hardin and her guest, her husband Wes, Enneagram 1, get serious as well as laugh as they contemplate their relationship and whether he's actually been a 3 all this time. This is a special peek into a twenty-four year long relationship and especially relevant if you're someone who wonders about your non-Enneagram obsessed spouse or someone who just want an inner look at another couple's Enneagram + Marriage story!

Listen to this important episode to learn what you in your Enneagram type can expect over the beginning, middle, and later stages of marriage as you make the important decision to grow love. Couples often approach their marriage with eyes of hope and excitement for how their spouse will heal their wounds. This isn’t a faulty approach, as we do help one another to heal. However, when we expect spouses to heal all of our own wounds, most of which started long before marriage, we are let down. Get the tips and advice you need for each season of marriage!

We're chatting about our lovely Enneagram 2s in this encompassing episode where we share not only well-known type qualities of 2s but also ways they can thrive within their relationships. We're also analyzing ways 2s, who love to give and to love the world can keep up all that helping from a place of health in marriage particularly. Listen as we chat about balancing the subtype and some common strengths and issues each of the other types has in relation to their dear Enneagram 2!

One of the most important aspects of any typing system is understanding that males and females are indeed somewhat different both socially and biologically and thus often have differing prevalent personality features. In this episode we share some fascinating collective research on common male patterns in typing as well as the results of two hundred males surveyed on IG. Most importantly, we've got essential tips for how males of all types can both grow and thrive in relationships.

As we move into Valentine’s Day weekend we’re talking about all things romance and the Enneagram! Whether you approach the world from your head, heart, or body, we’re covering how to go the distance with all things romance for each type and triad. Don’t miss out on this inclusive special episode where we lead you towards what we hope is an amazing romantic reconnection with the love of your life!

In this episode, we talk about the concepts of leaning in to make sure you're listening to and loving your spouse well but also that you're balancing your own self-care and personality with it. Being your authentic best self is a key contributor to the energy and lifeblood of marriage and family health. We're also sharing an invitation to a very special upcoming coaching opportunity geared toward energizing your relationship!

Join in the fun as we briefly review each Enneagram type in the individual and marriage setting! Hear your type’s strengths, hardships, and redeeming qualities too, so you can make sure your aim is on point for your very best in marriage and in life!

In this inaugural episode, Christa Hardin, MA, shares about the purpose of the Enneagram and Marriage Podcast, her background in clinical psychology, how the E and M Instagram came to be, why the Enneagram is so important, and more.