Often our instincts lead the way in marriage, sometimes even more than type. However, they can also be our biggest stumbling block. In this E + M Mini, join Christa in building a stronger foundation by bravely awakening your repressed instinct. You'll be inspired to take steps to thrive, not just survive, as you grow and glow together in marriage and family.

Christa briefly walks you through five essential goal practices that have not only been life-changing and that are going to help you clarify and step into your New Year's rhythms and bring into your home and family for your brightest glow together!

Resentments are one of the main issues in a marriage, and we've got the reasons why for both marriages in general as well as Enneagram users. E + M did research with our audience and today we're closing out 2022 letting go of resentments together. Take a deep cleansing breath and tune in with us to find out not only what the resentments of each type are as well as how to heal, release, and reconnect together.

During a season of dysregulation, it's easy to forget the good of our spouse. Studies also remind us that the holiday vibes create a wishful desire for our spouse to match the latest Hollywood holiday heartthrob. But what if you settled your heart in a peaceful, loving, joyful, and also realistic way? What if you regulated yourself enough to see the good each type brings to life and to marriage this holiday and beyond? Take a moment to dive into a relaxation practice with us, to release stress, and to really allow the beautiful gifts each type sink in this season. Join us as we do this together!

Have you been going through the motions lately, scared to look under the surface for fear you may not be able to get back up again? This episode has specific tips geared toward helping you to walk from the shadows and into the light and life you were made for. Neal and Carly Samudre, founders and a therapist and coach team, expertly created a way to own and evoke healthy feelings and embrace each one as it comes. Neal, 3w4 joins us and gives us tips to find joy, flow, and hope on the other side.

Destiny Boyum, MT-BC, Enneagram 2w3 joins Christa on the podcast today to help our community to process how music therapy can heal and soothe and even potentially mend marriage communication, sexual intimacy, sleep, grief, and dysregulation. Don't miss this special episode on music and marriage in your Enneagram as well as our special gift to you, type-by-type audience submitted E + M playlists!

As we head into the topic of marriage communication, Christa takes us on a journey of nonverbal communication research and why the tiny nuances in microexpressions matter more than you may have ever realized. We talk about mitigating communication, good encoding, acoustic manipulations, and so mix more as we refine the very best of the 3 C’s of nonverbal communication styles in life and marriage together here!

The dangers of a complacent marriage are many, ranging from stagnancy to infidelity, the latter of which makes trauma imminent. During the holidays, as couples get busier, marriage often gets put on the back burner and the allure is gone. However, "do no harm" can hurt just as much as an overt issue, and in this episode, we address both the makings of an affair as well as the makings of a magnetic monogamous relationship! Join Christa for an episode on affair prevention and the discovery of your best glow together.

We're digging into the nuances of how each of the nine Enneagram type communicates in terms of their communication style strengths and stressors in marriage. We've brought communications expert and Instagram influencer Steph Barron Hall, Enneagram 3 of @NineTypesCo for this special final piece of her two-part episode with us! As you listen, you can truly intentionally cross the bridge of clear communication together, meeting one another on the journey, and finding your way to the brightest glow yet.

We all need good tools for marriage communication as we try to stay warm together this holiday season ahead. Christa is joined for this important 2 part communication conversation by none other than Steph Barron Hall of the popular Nine Types Co. Instagram account. Here in part 1, you're getting 3 tips for communication for all couples surrounding family culture, narrative, and listening. We also get to learn how Steph, a 3, intentionally avoids burnout and is learning to stay strong as an individual and family member, especially as she glows out there with her ambitious and hardworking hubby, Brandon, Type 1.

Dr. Jerome helps us to understand how we develop provocative differences in marriage over time, differences that can cause conflict but that are essentially important for brain health or neuroplasticity. In this fascinating interview on brain and body health in marriage, we look at both our top Enneagram proficiency areas as well as those in which we have a lower aptitude - we need both to level us out. Dr. Jerome also helps us to take small steps to learn to practice pacing with one another better as friends, partners, and companionship through breathwork and healthy evolving together in the head, heart, and body. Join us for this important topic as we learn to calm down our sympathetic nervous systems and truly help our bodies to know we can handle whatever comes our way!external story, but offering steps for seeing through a healthier lens in life and marriage!

You bring your internal narratives to everything you do, and as such, the stories and scripts inside of you not only matter but affect your life more than you may realize. This podcast gives you a chance to recognize your inner narratives and offers steps to help you become more grounded as you incorporate an inner Enneagram coaching technique that you can use as you prepare to enter the ups and downs of the holiday season. Before we walk through this exercise together, Christa and Jenn also lead you through an internal E + M discussion about what's on the inner track of the E + M Membership, the Collective. Join Christa and Jenn on the podcast today as they talk about not just weaving a healthier internal and external story, but offering steps for seeing through a healthier lens in life and marriage!

Sometimes we do all the right steps and we still don't get the desired results with family and friends around us. Dr. Alison Cook joins us with some profound answers as she invites you to say a healthy "yes" to others even as you set boundaries for yourself. Join Christa and Alison as they discuss not only riveting points from Dr. Cook's book about boundaries in general, but also how to approach in-laws from each and every direction, whatever generation you're currently a part of. This is because we truly want you to be held in every season, and the best of your precious legacy as well.

In-law issues and extended family are enormous contributors to marital discord. Because of the exorbitant stress, one of the best ways to look both inward and outward at this complex dynamic is with an Enneagram 9 therapist and we're doing that on this episode. Hailey Brown, LCMHC has not only been a counselor for the past decade but is also an Enneagram and Marriage certified coach. We get to not only hear about Hailey's 9-5 marriage story (two withdrawing types, a rare treat on this pod!) and also her perfectly-timed tip with extended family just a bit before we get to holidays. Don't miss these calming and clarifying tips and we walk you through your extended family issues with grace and wisdom!

When we're considering how to glow or even relate with a spouse from a different family pattern than us, we are often called to not only marital or personal but spiritual work as we come across our unhealthy inner scripts. It's wonderful to get to process this topic and to do a spiritual exercise to the depths with Marilyn Vancil, 9, Spiritual Director, Author, and Enneagram teacher as she launches her new book, Beyond the Enneagram. Marilyn has not only been studying the Enneagram for over thirty years but she also has been married to her husband Jeff, Enneagram 3 for over fifty years. Marilyn is truly showing us an exhibition of the glow possible across seasons and her passion for helping people to listen to God, experience inner soul restoration, and enjoy a life of freedom and fullness as their true God-gifted self is seen.

As we talk about seasons of change, we are focusing on how to walk through the shadows that often accompany us while remembering we are more than just our Enneagram patterns. We are joined by Seth Creekmore (Creek), Drew Moser (The Enneagram of Discernment), and Seth Abram (Abram) of the Fathoms Enneagram Podcast. Join Christa and the Fathoms podcast crew as we talk about about how to walk through our issues across seasons with grace, wellness, and intention.

When we begin relationships, we often have no idea how past trauma from the past will affect us in the future, nor do we often know how to address it early on. Today we get to learn how Evan and Tiffany Doyle (Enneagram 5-2 Pairing) walked through their relationship stages both early on and then later when trauma patterns settled in, as well as how they built trust together. We talk about releasing secrets, dealing with shame and shadows, and shifting systems together in the relationship. Tune in to walk with us through this beautiful and hopeful love story.

In this episode we not only brief you on the stages of marriage across seasons, but we share seasons of a friendship "glow" also so you can make sure your friendships are healthy and strong also! Join us for a chat about the essential lessons friendships can teach us across the Enneagram types, and across the miles as well. Christa is joined by her best friend Stacey Day, Enneagram 2, as we share about wisdom gathered through a friendship that has lasted from the dating years through sending kids off to college and beyond.

As we roll into a new season this Labor Day episode, we aim to find rhythms and balance amidst work and family life, especially since the days are long but the years are short. Christa invites life and relationship coach Melissa Thompson of Reflections Counseling & Coaching to join us for this heart-warming episode you don’t want to miss. Melissa truly balances with grace and strength, offering you new tips for presence and thriving in all seasons of work, family, and personal life!

Join us for this simple series on each type, including as we share about the three subtypes of Sixes in marriage and family life!