Honing your Sexual Vibe Together
It’s one thing to say you’re working on goals, and quite another to do the work and put the pedal to the metal.
Let’s get your intimacy glow on as you find out which one of the love languages sexually your spouse likes.
Share yours also.
But take it one step further.
Put the new behavior/system into practice with at least one action step this week.
A brief review of the five most common sexual love languages:
Touch - Do you love when your spouse caresses you before or during sex? Tell them where and when, if so. If you’re not sure, find out what kinds of touch you like by doing the sensate focus exercise here.
Visual - Do you love when your spouse looks well-groomed best? In order to entice one another intimately by way of visuals without making them feel like they have to be perfect, make sure you shape the behavior of grooming well for one another by a. modeling it yourself, and b. complimenting them on small acts of grooming they do even just a little bit.
Playfulness - Do you love to bring play and laughter into the bedroom? Think of a fun toy, roleplay, or new style of sexual expression together that will bring them to their full erotic senses, but nothing that compromises your values or brings in darkness. What light play can you do before or after?
Conversation - Do you love and need conversations that hit the depths of the soul to really find your spouse’s heart in the midst of the chores and busyness? Guide the conversation with lovely talk beforehand that goes deep - tell them verbally how much it arouses you to feel like “one” before sexual activity!
Physical Fitness - Do you need to be awakened in your body with an invigorating workout routine before sex is on the table? Make sure you’re ready for hitting the sheets by prepping beforehand with getting that heart rate up with physical activity and fun. If your spouse is out of shape, encourage them in tiny habits that they choose and let them see how much your workout benefits you.
Remember, share yours but also ask your spouse theirs. Be open to intimacy outside of sex also, so you can truly be best friends, not just lovers.
As always, if you need more personal attention, a coaching session here or there may do you wonders and we have an awesome team that offers both local and remote sessions. Just let us know if you need more help anytime by reaching out to us!
