How Your Enneagram Worldview Affects Your Relationship

Sometimes your spouse has such a different worldview from you that you wonder if you’re even from the same planet, and no, I'm not trying to give off John Gray vibes (insert a cheery eye-roll here if your emoji didn't show up)!


Instead, I simply know that your spouse and you partly CHOSE each other because of your differing views - you saw how you added to one another. And that's why today's E + M mini-podcast is an essential listen.


When we're in the honeymoon stage of a relationship, a fresh perspective provides just that, a fresh perspective.


Later, however, the differences can be grating.


Why are you always so exhaustingly positive?

Why are you always so slow to act?

Why can't you just be happy with what you have?

Why are you so overly concerned with romance?


Sometimes it’s not your spouse but the other people in your life who seem to have it all wrong and you and your spouse have a shadow over you as you judge those different from you.


And while it's human to get frustrated with those differences, you also need to realize you're wasting precious time when you don't instead choose to learn from one another and to be patient with one another.


When you take the hierarchical view most take as their relationship goes down - "I'm healthier - smarter - or wiser - than them," you both truly lose, or should I say, "You ALL truly lose" since your community also falls as you fall, just as it rises with you as you lift others up.


Check out this episode to learn the differences between the personality type worldviews and how you can find your stride together as we keep in mind that everyone has something beautiful to share right here and right now, including YOU.