Performance in the Sexual Arena
One of the biggest areas of frustration and concern is marriage is the sexual arena. For starters, some couples have such high expectations that they experience hyper-arousal. I want to experience pleasure and arousal but I can't seem to perform when the time comes.
Others feel like they are resentful about other things in life, and sex doesn't fit in. If they don't like me in other areas, I feel resentful or used in this area. (This can happen for women or men but often women feel it more since they are statistically carrying a greater mental load).
Still others feel like they're powerless to get their spouse more aroused and thus they chase them and feel insecure while the spouse feels hounded. I need them. Why don't they see this?
This is my daily work, and I wanted to share the resourcing and tools around it in both the regular and deeper dive episodes today.
As you can see from above, sexual intimacy in marriage a necessary and very big part of life that often makes or completely breaks a marriage and us therapists and coaches work very hard to help you repair, to set realistic goals, and also thrive.
To that end, I hope you'll joyfully but also seriously consider this episode (and the deeper dive episode on Apple today also) as an important do-not-miss tutorial so you can get healthy in this area, perhaps more than you've ever been! If you want the deeper dive, and performance tips for every stage from excitement to resolution, join the deeper dive pod here or inside the Collective website!
Watch the ad-free version at YouTube!
Love living intentionally with you ,
PS. Did you miss our Collective, but really KNOW you need marriage help and some live coaching now? Here's my 5 week The Enneagram in Marriage course. I had such a wonderful time sharing it with those who took it live a few weeks ago and now it's on video(!). Enjoy these five forty-minute classes with a workbook and a copy of my book here!!
