Love Languages
Everyone differs in the way they experience and view romance. And as you will learn if and when you take Truity’s new love languages test, there’s now interestingly two additional ways people feel loved as reported by 500,000 test takers.
It isn’t that the five old ways of loving are obsolete but it is that many of us really love more nuanced nowadays and certain things, like males and females splitting chores isn’t really holding up as much the way it did in the eighties when the Chapman test was developed. Nowadays people may love very special acts of service but chores just seem to be expected and split practically as more of a basic way of loving versus being specifically romantic.
What we are finding is that quality time nowadays is actually VERY important to us regardless of our time. However, according to the new test results, quality time is best split even deeper into two categories - intellectual conversation and emotional support.
Some days and seasons we want different things in the way of quality time and it’s important to both pay attention to whether your partner understands this about you and vice versa. Want to understand your partner better? Check out our deep dive guides here!
For instance, if you keep feeding your mate with emotional support that is deep and rich but what they really want is to talk about their intellectual passion, you are totally missing the connection they seek.
Spend time taking the test this week if you can and add the results of your love styles test in the conversation you have so you can refresh one a other with a more focused lens.
We also really want to focus on you two having six to ten hours of quality time together each week as well! Plan better with our Enneagram Glow Relationship Planner here!
Romance, whatever it means to you, comes through you talking some intentional time to rest and replenish and then sharing love out of that joyful space that comes from refreshment.
Even if your spouse isn’t the first to bring it, do not hide it if you have it to give! You are the best change agent for the relationship - yes, you!! I believe in you for this beautiful step!
