Bringing Adventure into your Marriage

One way to bring more fun and excitement into your marriage is by creating and planning adventures.

I’d like you to remember the childhood books, “Choose Your Own Adventure.” I noticed recently as my husband Wes and son Jack were watching Bear Gryllis on TV in the wild, that Bear was doing the same kind of Choose Your Own Adventure thing on his show, too. 

I always think of marriage as a Choose Your Own Adventure kinda deal also, but one that many forget in the busy of it all. Some of the endings turn out better than others lol but they all have a fun story later, for better and for worse. It’s so fun that book series’ and shows have picked up on the idea because let’s face it...

We all NEED adventure in marriage, it truly keeps us alive and vibrant. It helps us to affair-proof and resist the monotony we are all prone to, whatever our type. Adventures will vary with season, budget, and types, but all need them. One of my favorite couples who was recently on the pod (5-2 couple Tim and Faith), just went on their Alaska cruise that they had planned for 3 years. This was one of the more epic adventures, and they’re having a blast!

The good news is that adventure is within all of us so ask yourself:


How will this look in your life as you become empowered to choose adventuring?

Will you go alone or with other couples?

Will you plan a few long ones or a few more in short bursts?

Whether it’s wild travel you want or to learn to dance or play pickle ball right in your own neighborhood together, we’re going to try to adventure using this gentle reminder to be brave.

Yes, test the waters out, take a deep breath, and schedule in several actual adventures together. It’s also time to let our spouses do some of the same choosing also before we say no! Take turns if you’re up for it and tell them what your personal outer limits are too, of course. But do lean in!

So to reiterate. Make a list of adventures you’d like to take together with your spouse and have them do the same, if they’re willing. Better yet, do this together! Don’t shame a spouse for an idea you don’t like. Just take that deep breath and allow in at least entertaining it for a possible “Choose Your Own Adventure”. As Steinbeck said, people don’t take trips, trips take people.

What adventures will you be brave enough to let take you in?