Coffee and work convo with your spouse?

Whether we work outside the home or not, the ways in which we deal with work stress definitely affects our marriages.

I loved how Kaleigh Newby yesterday on the podcast took us through many examples of this, type by type.

What I hope really sticks with you, regardless of type as you process this together with me now, is that you realize, even with all of the tips she offered, you can only work on yourself.

The same goes for your spouse. As you can also understand, they are not responsible for your motives.

But, your hard work will influence one another, and that is key.

Today, as you approach your day with fire and with discipline to getting done the things that you need to get done stoically, of course, even as you pause to do your emotional work, remember this…

You are strong and courageous. You live your life with intention and you can make work changes, even if you feel like you’re unseen, unappreciated, or working harder than everyone else.

To help you to live this out even better, a few healthy and curious conversations around what might need to shift regarding each of your big days would be awesome and SO healthy!

Here are some conversation ideas and reminders for you as you process together:

Talk about each of your after-work transitions.

If you stay at home, you are also a worker so consider yourself in this, not just your spouse. For example, I need an after-dinner bodywork or a walk most nights or I won’t be able to switch gears. It helps me to context switch. Wes needs attention and his chew space when he first gets home. I know a lot of Fives who need context switching, but even if you’re not a Five, per say, and you need it, feel free to get nuanced!

Talk about short-term goals for changing things at work. Is there a window that you can just sit and breathe in the air when you feel stifled? Is there a five-minute time for putting your head down that you could take and set a timer for? Is there a conversation that you need to have to ease up passive-aggressiveness? Set the goal with fire.

Don’t be afraid to talk about long-term changes with your spouse this week sometime, too.

Of course space these conversations out but don’t avoid them because they’re uncomfortable. You’re worth it!

Also, if you’re more aggressive - don’t push. Growth happens in very tiny steps so take a deep breath and ready, aim, and fire with me this week as we do our work with intention together.

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