Intentional Intimacy

Have you ever gotten so lost sexually together that you just stopped being sexual altogether?

Whether kids or injury or illness caused this bodily breach together, I want to bring you back to the ABCs of intimacy together this week so you can simply find one another again in your hearts.

Let me clarify these simple ABC steps: 


A - Admit you're growing in this area. Admit you're not perfect in this area and that you're learning all the time what you and your spouse both want and need in this area. Let your spouse know even if you don't get to have sexual intercourse in any official sense you want to hold one another right and see what happens. You want to play and to be close and to please them. Let them know you are safe by this admission.



B - Bring something. Bring an idea you share with them for intimacy, whether it be a favorite style of intimacy or a new massager or a KU jelly or a special basket of aphrodisiacs to your spouse, just show some interest. 



C - Calendar it. If you're not intentional to set aside time, understand this; as life becomes busy and stresses grow, sex will not happen on its own. Timing it is nothing to be afraid of if you also make room for spontaneous times also if you're a person who enjoys that! Check out The Enneagram Glow Relationship Planner for help planning!

So there you have it, the ABCs of intimacy this month will lead you closer together even if it's not always perfect sexually. Things rarely are perfect but when we're intentional in our love and with our lives, there are many rewards indeed. 

Intentionality alone however will not suffice so make sure you're also purposeful and action-oriented in your steps this month!

Write a reminder to yourself indeed if you're somewhat absent-minded like me naturally! 💕  

Find more ways to connect with your spouse in our 5 week relationship course or in our book, “Enneagram in Marriage.”