Sex and the Enneagram in Marriage
Sex in marriage can be amazing or it can, to be blunt, lay flat (no pun intended). As we open the conversational doors to deeper sexual connection in marriage here and on the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, it's beautiful to remember that as bodies join together they truly become one in a spiritual sense as well.
Yes, if we want the best chemistry in the bedroom, we have to redeem the conversations that allow us to freely discuss connection and communication there.
I know this may sound very normal for many, especially outside of Christian circles, but for many within, it really isn't. So much damage has been done in the name of telling every man he will struggle with lust his entire life and by telling women sex is only for their husband's pleasure, to name just a couple of the issues Sheila's working through with us on this podcast and in her new book series with her husband Dr. Keith Gregoire, The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex, as well as the updated version for females!
Although the struggle is real for many people in various seasons which we cover on today's show, Sheila encourages us that these kinds of unhealthy limiting beliefs make us think we can never have true intimacy with our spouses because we are too sick to ever get treatment for sexual issues and actually heal. It's not healthy, and to be quite honest, and it's not Song of Songs biblical to make sex sound so unappealing.
This episode covers these topics at length. I don't say this often but it's not an episode you want to miss a minute of, as there are important tips for every stage and season of marriage, for those dealing with fear, boredom, addictions, pain, and so much more!
As we aim to create a deeper and more spiritual connection together, it’s important to note that women who feel true intimacy and respect in the bedroom report being five times more likely to experience orgasm. However, most pornography animalizes women and does not exhibit respectful posture but makes play dirty or abusive. Even if there is pleasure in the moment for both, dominating sodomizing does not bring intimate, respectful trust, a key feature of human versus animal intimacy. True love really cares.
It also doesn't help when partners don't have a clue about how to actually pleasure a woman since the timing is different for orgasming and women take a lot longer in most cases and Sheila is very practical about educating couples across difficulties and so many seasons of life, transition, aging, newlywed years, addiction, and grief.
So as you can see, Sheila and her team's research for the win and we have an awesome freebie on healthy sexuality in your marriage also right here! I just love helping all couples interested in this kind of deeper intimacy. I hope that includes you! We ALL have room to grow. There is grace and also growth (as well as so many tips) available right here on this show!
